I read parenting advice, thoughts, ideas etc from numerous blogs each week & they all have 1 thing in common, they usually talk about the good, the positive, the uplifting things about parenting. I think that’s great and all, and I do enjoy reading them, but what isn’t talked about as much is the dark side of parenting. The days were you just want to curl up in a ball, ignore the whole world, crying & crying, & thinking where did I go wrong? Those days are the days, you need people to talk about, you need to know your not alone, you need to know every parent goes through those challenging moment, you need to know that like with everything, parenting has a dark side too.
Tonight was one of those nights for me. It took over everything in my world & the only reason I didn’t cry was because I was babysitting during this situation. Parenting teens is something you can’t begin to understand till you are there. It has been one of the hardest but very rewarding thing I have ever done. My eldest who is almost 16 didn’t make good choices tonight. And because of his poor choices, a lot of things happened……..he made not only himself but our family look bad, he might have lost the only friend he had, he hurt people who really care about him, there will be more consequences from his actions by his peers like gossip or people making fun of him, & he lost our trust (which is so hard to get back.) It just breaks my heart to see how all of this is self inflicted, he brought it upon himself.
My job as a parent is to show them the path when they are lost, but only they can walk down that road. I let him know that everyone has made poor decisions numerous times in their lives, but that we have to deal with the fallout, the consequences of our actions.
Nothing in life is every just happy & sunny 100% of the time. There are those dark times that we all must endure to get to the happy days, the days that make all the hardships worth while. Only then do we appreciate the happiness & blessings in our lives. I am happy to say, that tonight is almost over, which means tomorrow’s another day. And another chance at making it better than today.
Anyone out there that can relate, feel free to leave me a comment or two.