Lowing my expectations towards others has been uplifting & freeing. It took me 35 years to do this, but once I did, it added a new chapter in my happiness book. I no longer expect people to live up to my expectations because they don’t share the same expectations I have. How can I hold them accountable based on what I want them to do?
We can either accept the people in our lives for who they are or find yourself being disappointed time & time again. I have a friend that I absolutely love, that I see every few months. She’s amazing, funny, & I love being around her. I would be completely sad if she wasn’t in my life. But she’s flaky & unreliable. And I’m completely fine with that, since that is who she is. Once I accepted her for who she is, my feelings of disappointment faded. Everyone has strengths & weaknesses, learn the strengths of the people in your life and build on that. Building a foundation on someone’s weaknesses leaves cracks & eventually your foundation will crumble.
Next time someone disappoints, angers, or makes you sad, check within to see if it’s because of the expectations you have of them. Try lowering them & see how that changes your relationship & feelings towards that person. I noticed that doing this has helped me cut out drama, stress, negativity, & resentment.
After reading numerous blogs, there are a lot of people who don’t believe this. So this question is for all of you, does lowering your expectation towards other and increasing your positive expectation for yourself bring you more happiness? Why or why not?