“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, & to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.” ~Mandy Hale
Being a wife and mother, I put my husband & children ahead of myself. I know that there are numerous parents out there who do the same. It has been like this for as long as I remember. I always felt guilty of doing something for myself, because I could have done whatever it was for my family. This year, in my efforts to take care of myself, I realized how that way of thinking is counter productive. In fact, it prohibited me to properly take care of myself. We need to love ourselves enough to take care of our mind, body, & spirits. If we don’t, who will?
Once you start taking care of yourself, the guilt we have all felt one time or another will fade. I don’t feel guilty if I want to go to the gym instead of volunteering at my daughter’s school. I know I do a lot already and that what I do is enough. I don’t feel guilty when I go running, leaving my little ones with their brother. I know they are in good hands & I’m only gone for a short period of time. Still not convinced here are a few reasons why taking care of ourselves isn’t selfish……..
- Eating healthy is needed as fuel for our minds & body
Supplying our body with the proper nutrients it needs to thrive is so important. I can’t stress enough the importance of this. The food I ate damaged my body more than I ever thought. I didn’t realize how much till I cut those foods out of my diet. Once you get over the initial hump, you’ll feel so much better. And you’ll be thankful that you replaced the processed & junk food, for healthier options. It truly does make a whole of difference. Not convinced, try cutting something out for 3 weeks and see how you feel.
- Taking care of ourselves enables us take care of our loved ones
If we aren’t in good shape, how will we be able to give our loved ones our 100%. We can’t. As sad as it is to admit, before I started taking care of myself, I didn’t have much energy to truly be present with my kids. I didn’t play or engage with them, like I do now. Because of how I’m making myself a priority, I’m able to give my loved ones so much more of me.
- Exercising regularly not only helps us keep in shape but it gives us energy needed throughout our day
I’ve noticed over the last month, how much more energy I have because of exercising. It’s interesting on the days I go to the gym or running how much better I feel compared to when I don’t. I have lots more energy to get things done & I’m able to engage with my kids longer.
- Shows our kids how important it is….show by example
Growing up, self care wasn’t a concept I knew. My dad gave us his all and had nothing left for himself. This is where my mommy guilt came in. I thought be a good mother meant going without so my kids don’t. But it doesn’t. I didn’t realize the importance of self care. By giving my kids an example to follow, I’m hoping they always take care of their whole self.
- Healthy mind, body, & spirit radiates love, compassion, & generosity
- Happiness is a side effect of self care
Last week, I had lunch with my dad and he made an interesting comment about how much happier I seem. I thought about this all the way home and realized just how right he was. I have been a lot happier since I’ve started eating healthier & making exercising a priority. Want more happiness in your life? Start taking better care of yourself.
Now I’m not saying to go out and spend a ton of money on ourselves. Just take a real hard look at yourself & your life. Is self care an important part in your life? Or is it needing some support? If you’re like me and was really lacking, figure out ways to work on this, something realistic you could do a regularly and start making it a point to do it. Stop making excuses and start implementing small ways to take better care of ourselves. If we don’t who will?
Is self care important to you? Or is it a new concept for you?
Love to hear your thoughts on this.