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I’m always looking for new ways to get more steps in my day.
One way to do this would be to walking my girls in the morning
& at pick. I think school is about 1.5 miles one way.
Twice a day would give me 6 miles. But since it’s still wintertime
& the mornings aren’t warm enough for the girls,
I will be adding in this walk once a day, in the afternoon,
weather permitting. Today, Thursday, & Friday will
be the only days I can do this, this week. But that means
I got an extra 18 miles of walking in for my week. So, I’ll
take what I can do.
What has motivated you
Lowing my expectations towards others has been uplifting & freeing. It took me 35 years to do this, but once I did, it added a new chapter in my happiness book. I no longer expect people to live up to my expectations because they don’t share the same expectations I have. How can I hold them accountable based on what I want them to do?
We can either accept the people in our lives for who they are or find yourself being disappointed time & time again. I have a friend that I absolutely love, that I see every few months. She’s amazing, funny, & I love being around her. I would be completely sad if she wasn’t in my life. But she’s flaky & unreliable. And I’m completely fine with that, since that is who she is. Once I accepted her for who she is, my feelings of disappointment faded. Everyone has strengths & weaknesses, learn the strengths of the people in your life and build on that. Building a foundation on someone’s weaknesses leaves cracks & eventually your foundation will crumble.
Next time someone disappoints, angers, or makes you sad, check within to see if it’s because of the expectations you have of them. Try lowering them & see how that changes your relationship & feelings towards that person. I noticed that doing this has helped me cut out drama, stress, negativity, & resentment.
After reading numerous blogs, there are a lot of people who don’t believe this. So this question is for all of you, does lowering your expectation towards other and increasing your positive expectation for yourself bring you more happiness? Why or why not?
In celebration of turning another year older, here are 36 lessons I’ve learned:
What lessons have you learned over the years?
I’ve never really been a winter person even if I’ve lived in New England a good portion of my life. Each year, I never look forwards to winter, the cold weather, & all that it brings. But this year, I was determined to make the most out of winter, embracing everything it has to offer instead of being depressed, stuck indoors, waiting for the spring to arrive. I know I’m not alone, there are others who don’t enjoy winter. So here’s some of the things that have made this winter actually quite enjoyable. It may not be my most favorite season, but it definitely not a time to dread anymore. Here’s a few ways I’ve embraced winter.
1. Get the right gear
“There is no bad weather, only bad clothing.” ~Swedish Saying
Having the right gear is EVERYTHING. How can you enjoy the colder months is your freezing? You don’t need to spend a fortune, just make sure you have good gloves, hat, neck wrap, & warm boots. Oh and wearing two pairs of pants on really cold days helps a lot.
2. Change your mindset
Attitude is everything. Start finding little ways you enjoy about winter and go from there.
3. Admire the beauty of the season
Have you been out looking around, it’s quite beautiful out. The snow & ice offers such fantastic props for images. Next time your out, start really looking around, seeing all the beauty that’s around you.
4. Make your home cozy & enjoy the comforts
Fires, candles, essential oil diffusers etc. helps make you house cozy. Who wouldn’t want to be home if it’s nice & cozy. Enjoy the comforts of food, warm drinks, reading, snuggling etc.
5. Have a winter bonfire
Who doesn’t love a good bonfire? Bonfires aren’t just for spring & summer, winter ones can be just as fun.
7. Snuggle up with a good book
Got some reading to catch up on, now is the perfect time. Make yourself a nice warm drink, snuggle with your favorite blanket and get your reading on.
8. Have a game night
We love game nights at our house. Wintertime is a great time to have these more often, as we are always looking of ways to have fun with all 5 kiddos, but it’s hard since the ages they are 16-6. Games is a perfect way for us all to have family time.
9. Exercise @ least 1x per day
No, you don’t need to go crazy or anything, just get out and walk. I love walking now, so that’s what I will do till spring, then I’m hoping to fix my bike and start biking again. My stomach can’t handle running, so I don’t ever think I would do that. Just do whatever you can at least 1x per day.
10. Get outdoors as often as you can……..staying indoors is depressing
Getting out in the fresh air will do you wonders. Stop barricading yourself in, get out, & embrace the cold.
11. Activities & hobbies ie. snowshoeing, sledding, crafts etc.
Finding something to get up moving, is always great. Why not make it something fun. Take up new activities or do something you already love. It’ll make winter so much more enjoyable.
12. Eat as healthy as possible
The way we eat will affect the way we feel. Fill your body with foods that it will thank you later for.
13. Host an outdoor party or pot luck
Parties of any kind are fun. Why not host one at your house? It can be as simple as you want, just gather a few people together to enjoy each other’s company.
Are you a fan of winter?
Ten years ago, I got my 1st camera and started taking pictures of my children. I loved being able to capture a moment, that I will always remember. I also loved being able to tell a story through my images. At this time, I wasn’t very creative, mostly point & shoot but it was the beginning of my journey.
As my kids grew, so did my photography. I began to be more creative, thinking outside the box, which enabled me to capture some great images. Each image had either different perspective or the personality of the person in the image. I began to fall in love with photography.
About 3 or 4 years into my journey, I began doing portraits for people who couldn’t afford a professional photographer. I believed that everyone no matter what their financial situation is, should have portraits of their loved ones. This experience changed how I looked at everything. It was hard at first, completely out of my comfort zone, but so rewarding. One bride I took pics for I didn’t do that great of a job. Or at least I didn’t think so. But she loved them. Sadly a year later, her husband died and these are the last images they have together as a family. Something I’m sure she will always cherish. Or my 1st newborn pics I took for a sick mother who didn’t think she would live long enough to see her baby hit middle school. So a local non-profit hired me to go to her house and capture images of her family. These moments are something I will always remember and keep with me.
This is about the time I started comparing myself to professional photographers. I was amazed at the talent out there and didn’t think I could compete with them. All I could think was, “how would I ever be a photographer when the competition is so much better? Who would want to go to me when they could go to them?” This negative self talk hindered my photography journey for a few years. I let self doubt completely take over and stopped offering photography. Sure I had a few jobs here & there but I didn’t make an effort or work towards accepting new clients & starting my photography business. Deep down inside I really wanted to start my own photography business. But I gave up…….I gave up on myself.
“Don’t let the negativity from within squash your desires. ”
Fast forwards a few years to last October. Something inside of me changed. I began really looking into different types of photography and seeing how 90% of the amazing images out there are enhanced, altered, & combined to make the image we all see. While that is great, it made me rethink everything about myself & my photography. I may not have the best equipment, but I have heart & truly love what I do. I have an eye for seeing things others don’t see, being creative, which is evident through my images. There will always be someone better than me but I’m not looking to be the best. I’m just looking to offer my photographer where it is needed. And this is where I began thinking I could really start my own business. This is where I began to fall back in love with photography.
A month later, I put in a bid for some modeling head shots which I’ve never done. And I got the job. I was so excited but nervous. It went great and I LOVED it. I walked away so excited with a continuous smile. That was the moment I knew that this is what I want to do. And I’ve branched off from there. I’ve gotten more clients, with all ranges of needs from maternity to birthdays & a possible up & coming rock band. I’ve been working hard to capture new images as well as expand my portfolio. Now, I’m willing to travel all over New England and even into NY, which gives me a lot more potential clients. I’ve been working slowly but things are now starting to come together. Just recently a local business is going to be referring her clients to me. She does everything from proms, to weddings to any special events that need their makeup done. How awesome is that?
As I sit here today, I realized if I had completely given up, I wouldn’t be as happy as I am right now, in this moment. I never knew what I wanted to do, other than raising my 5 kids, which left me a little empty inside. But that emptiness is filling up. I know I want to travel, to capture special moments for others, & to share my gift with as many people as I can. But the best part, is that my family can come with me, so we all can share this journey together.
“Just remember……..No matter how long it takes you, NEVER give up on yourself. “
Do you have a time you almost gave up on yourself? What changed your mind?